But cheese fondue should at least be virginal.

Ah, a cheese fondue. I'm feeling a bit ashamed still.

wat een schatje!
looks quite female... very beautiful!
kids are great!
kennen sie eigentlich "hotel waldhaus" in sils-maria im engadin?

WAR IS OVER
if you want it.

Mieke

Everything ok? You're very quiet and if not you're speaking in tongues, neither one seems to be your style.

Arnon

Do you ask your godson's permission to upload his pictures to your site? Or even to take pictures of him in the first place?

Strasse's partner

Doesn't it make you think ? That message on Mayu's t-shirt, especially in combination with 'Heavenly' and 'Favorite destination'.

“You do the same with everybody?”

That what happens once you become a devilish serial lover.

Bernard

I'm not so sure Arnon is really serial, but develish(?) , most certainly yes.

Trixi

Of course I know Hotel Waldhaus. I have been there quite a few times and in the summer of 2004 Hotel Waldhaus asked me to do a reading there. (I wrote a small article about Hotel Waldhaus in the Süddeutsche Zeitung.)

Godson with benefits.

Neria

This is a sincere question, have you been raped once?

David

Define rape.
That Sander's photo appeared here without preparation yet with a retroactive announcement that Grunberg's deeds are fine is one thing, to place a minor's picture here is another.

Neria

Sander and the minors have nothing to do with this.
This is about you. Has everyone for example tied you up against your will and forced you to take part in sexual activities?
Or have you been forced to prostitute yourself?
Please present the true Neria to us. It will be a relief for you and all the others.

David

You know, in the blogosphere it is the trend but how many times can one laugh at the same joke?

And even if it was me alone it would still not make my observation false. I don't think that placing photos of the Ukranian Brides without having their permission is different.

Neria

No “pictures of Ukrainian brides” were being used on this site (or anywhere else) against their will.
I know that you are desperate for my attention but that doesn’t give you the liberty to distort information.
Your suggestive remarks about my godson make it clear that it is your ambition to become the most repulsive commenter on this site. Let me reassure you: you are doing well.

To Arnon

Could it be that your qualification of Biala's presens on this website is reminiscent of the intimacy that family life provokes?

Grunberg,

I'm very glad to hear non of the Ukrainian Brides illustrated any of your articles and posts without knowing that in advance and permitting this act. I wonder why did you keep this information to yourself till this very moment as this issue had been discussed in this blog previously. You too contribute to your ill reputation.
No suggestive remarks on your godson whatsoever, I was quite plain, I have asked only whether you asked his permission to take his photos and place them here. If you feel this question is repulsive I wonder why it is so.
When it comes to be the top repulsive sovereign in this blog you're doing quite a good job yourself.

Neria

I don't make fun of people who were raped.

David

I meant to your invitation to what can easily become a grotesque confession of fictive history. It would damadge the subject of inquiry by diverting attention to a less important issue (sorry that I put my interest first but I'm more concerned now with ethics than with artistic sprees).

Neria

My point is this, don't bore us with the misery that is your life.
Get a husband. Or a hamster maybe. Even better, your own weblog where you can spread the word of Neria.
What is the purpose?
Arnon Grunberg is not the antichrist. As far as I know.
Here's an author that writes interesting blog posts every day and there is you with your screamy, paranoid, filthy, hysteric comments that from a remote distance have something to do with the English language.
I don't say you are an evil witch but time has come to slap some sense in you.

Pjötr

In my experience an author tends to attract people who are clearly unsound; people who appear to be mentally ill. Of course authors attract people who appear to be functioning well also, but based on my experience with readings every time a number of people show up at the reading who are clearly unsound.
The first two, three questions are perfectly normal. Let’s say, they ask you: “I have written a book, do you want to read it?”
Then they give you the book, and they stalk you for months if not years to come.
None of my family members is crying out for attention as loud as Neria does. I asked her to stop commenting on this site a few times. She refuses.
To answer your question: an annoying stalker is not the same thing as a sister or a mother. And I don’t believe this site is real intimate.
Do you experience intimacy here?

Grunberg

If this site is not really intimate why do you so easily upload the pics of your godson to it?

Grunberg

If I had been crying for attention I would bother to be much more charming. It is exactly because I couldn't care less about your feelings that allows me to ask all the questions which others who do care will never dare to ask.

David

You are not very intelligent.

To Arnon

I would argue: hints of intimacy. More often between commentators than between you and them.

Neria

From you I take that as a compliment.

David

Indeed I tried to be very gentle. You can take it as a compliment that I tried.

Pjötr

Technically Grunberg has no problem blocking me if he feels so harassed. Not that I think Sander needs my help but at least on my part Sander and I are in good terms now and if he needs my cooperation he's has it. I have no idea why would Arnon deliberately choose to victimize himself. Not long ago I have asked him whether he feels being raped by his readers, this question was made in relation to his article on Multatuli. In my opinion whores are subjected to rape by definition. Since I am not interested in being a rapist I have asked Grunberg if he indeed feels being raped and he chose not to answer.
If you would follow our communication from the very start you will be able to draw the relveant conclusions by yourself. Arnon was the first who made very violent and filty suggestions about me which had no relation to realilty. Since then, each time he doesn't feel comfortable with my comments he pathologizes me, this is his strategy and his devoted disciples coppy him.

Neria

If you really couldn’t care less you would do what I asked you to do a long time ago: leave.
The need of attention has nothing to do whatsoever with being charming.
Misbehavior is far more effective in getting attention than being polite and charming. Your presence on this site is a beautiful example of this.
On May 12, 2007 you wrote on this site:
“Arnon was right the second time, warning me not to turn this blog into addiction, but mental entanglements are always much easy than feeling. i prefer doing that than preparing myself to a potential job interview at Yad vaShem museum (they need a secretary) and feel lifeless.”
I beg you to fight your addiction.

Grunberg

I retroactively read it as a variation to Oslo Syndrome, adopting your terminology and accepting your pathologization as decent and right. I'm happy to announce that since then I have changed. I had also the chance to see the repetition of this sort of communication here done with many (not only with me). Go back earlier and check where and why did you get into one of your wingdings. To follow your line of being a sovereign each of the commentators here is placed lower than you and you abused your power so many times you've lost your legitimacy to claim for any dignity. The two episodes are very different, making an Aliefka's kind of comment two years ago and asking you today whether you feel as being raped, a question that is made in relation to your own text, is an absured.

To Neria

If you would trace back my take on the ongoing controversy between you and Arnon, you would see it is inexisting.

Grunberg

and, as I have just told Pjötr , you avoid answering questions that have nothing to do with my need for attention by focusing on me. Why are you so coward? You dare ask commentators some very intimate questions, you dare slander their names without ever questioning your own behavior but when they ask you questions that can be purely general and theoretical according to the tone of your reply you'r going crazy.

Pjotr

I'm sorry but I looked up the dictionary for 'несъществуващ' and I can't find the meaning. What is it that you are referring to? I just don't understand your reply, really.

David

I guess Neria's problem is that nobody asked her permission for her birth. Neither for feeding nor nurturing her. And now she's stuck with her own life and hates the feeling she has to make something of it. If only someone would explain to her that it is ok to give up, to resort to alcohol or drugs or better even both. As long as she keeps quiet or only bothers the people responsible for her existence.

Since I decided not to speak to her again, our relationship has improved enormously. She even says we are on good terms now. So this might be good advise for all of us; do not speak to Neria and we'll all be fine.

Sander

You know what, I really pity Arnon now, his best friends are doing such a disservice to him. I really hope the way you identify yourself with Arnon is not the way he identifies with you. It can be really embarrassing to witness somebody wriggles silently.

To Neria

Although I am confident that - in this case - neither my writing nor my English is to be blamed for your misunderstanding, I rephrase what I said earlier:

I never have chosen sides in your quarrel with Arnon. I never came between before, and I do not see any reason to reconsider this.

Pjötr

I'm very glad. I don't feel at war with him and the whole idea of taking sides seems to me completely irrelevant.

Neria

I don't like your presence here. I kindly ask you to refrain from posting comments on this site.

Arnon

This is much better, to ask someone to leave because you don't like his presence here (instead of pathologizing him). I will leave no comments here ever if you will apologize for your past brutal slanders.

WAR IS OVER

If you want it.

All you need to do is to apologize.

Arnon

What's the matter with you, your credibility is at stake. This is not the second time you refuse to grab with both hands the opportunity to get rid of me forever. By now, even those who are less capable of grasping nuances might suspect that you do not wholeheartedly wish for my complete absence. David and Sander are watching you with pleading eyes. My condition for this desired state is not analogous to blackmail, you were objectively unfair with me. Say that you do apologize for that and you'll live happily ever after, otherwise you should check with yourself if you're not turning me to yet another vogel.