I wouldn't understand that you aspect your children to take care of you when you need daily nursing.

My grandmother blossomed in the nursing home. She spent a very happy seven years there, much happier - she lived next doors- than the years in wich she spended the nights and a big part of the day in my parents home - with us-.
BTW, You haven't put your mother away. You found her a very nice companion.

It's often a bit more complicated than just convenience.

A Ghanaian friend said the same, but she added "...while dogs can sit on the couch next to them ."

Currently , I'm living with my 81 year old mother in a steady, mutual understanding : She takes care of me, in doing so, I keep her active.

This is actually a current topic in my family. Yesterday two people came to explain to my dad everything about living in a room in a newly constructed part of a nursery home. While listening his face lit up and he said 'Put me on the list!'

The 'Adopt a ghana granny' program

On the internet i saw a review with the possiblility to ''adopt a granny'' program in Ghana. Well, much more to be said using , among other things, scientific investigation recources on the subject....

Milan

ever heard of the cultural anthropology? in NL a granny wouldn't even want to live with her grown up kids, in Iran the (grand)parents are perhaps the most important members of family, nobody really thinks in terms of ' expecting nursery' it is a part of the circle, (and they used to nurse you, didn't they?)

Iz

Yes i heared of that, it used to be studying black people as if they are apes, today it's much better.

Personally i wonder how much of the caregiving is done by the men and how much by the women in the family, and how much is not done at all in Iran. I would really want to look in to it better, the so called social benefits of that society does also remind us of the 'zuilen' we had in the netherlands f.e. It's just not so black and white as you put it, and i would bet on the idea that it's not all that possitive for both ''parties''.

cultural anthropology

http://nieuws.nl.msn.com/algemeen/article.aspx?cp-documentid=154638567

Granny

@ Mieke Dutoit
You are certainly one in a million.