2008/10/20 New York
An affair
X
After the Verwey Reading on Thursday night a man in his fifties approached me. He commented on the reading and asked me to sign one of my novels for him. While he was already walking away he said to me: “I’m the father of X.”
X being a girl with whom I had a short affair. We lost all contact. The last time I heard from X was when she sent me an e-mail to inform me that she was pregnant.
It puzzled me why this man wanted to inform me that he is the father of X.
What was his message exactly?
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He wanted to remind you of my eXistence. Maybe that's the worse thing that can happen to a father: for your daughter to be screwed over and forgotten.
X
Interesting.Well you see, I haven't forgotten you completely.
How is your baby?
i do not like to discuss personal things here. and don't write about me unless you give me an interesting name.
Dear A & X
There is also the possibility that the father was proud: of all the losers that went to bed with his daughter (in his eyes), it appeared that at least one of them had a career.‘A short affair’ and ‘being screwed over’, quite a different view, if you ask me. But please do not ask me, love is as scary as war.
Dear Bernard,
what wars did you go through?X
Please give me a hint that you are the X I meant.Could you please tell me on what occasion exactly have we met each other for the first time?
mutual friend
Eric tries to be the big unveiler, maybe he should discover if X is the real X!
X
No but nice try.but that's how we met. I have to ask my father whether it was him.
X
That's not how I met X.And if you read this entry carefully you will notice that the first time I met the father of X was after the Verwey Reading.
Again: all I can say is nice try.
And good luck with your future love life.
Back to trivial things. This painting has no nipples.
Nipples
Please adjust your monitor. Mine shows the nipples clearly.Arnon
If we are to play Sherlock Holmes, Hercule Poirot or Jules Maigret, it would help to have some more details. How would you characterize this father? What are X's marital circumstances? Did the father show any interest in your socks?I connected a seperate (I'm on an apple laptop) monitor,Philips 19inch, but no n ipples.
Beautiful picture! I guess it's a painting. Who's the painter?
the message
maybe it was: "here I am"; like my father always said, 'if there is an elephant in the room, introduce it!'JJ Soetekouw
Painter is Odd NerdrumMeaning
Since this is no longer into the intimacy atmosphere, I guess the father thought that 'Onze oom' for free would have been a nice trade for the availability of his daughter.Strasse
Most of your comments on this website are sexist. I wonder why.Interesting painter, that Odd Nerdrum -never heard of him - I like him very much. Thanks.
@Eric Wander – about war
I went through no war you can find in a history book, just one of the many hidden wars in families. A war at home. (My father was trained as a member of the special forces – interrogation section, no need to say more, I think. But if you are really interested you can try this blog for what it is worth - http://fraterbernardus.blogspot.com/)
@Eric Wander – about war
I went through no war you can find in a history book, just one of the many hidden wars in families. A war at home. (My father was trained as a member of the special forces – interrogation section, no need to say more, I think. But if you are really interested you can try this blog for what it is worth - http://fraterbernardus.blogspot.com/)
Only women can underestimate the importance of sex.
Strasse
Come again...Can only men underestimate women?
X
X must be some other X then the X that I know, since she didn't mention any pregnancy, at least not to me.Dear Dens
I didn't try to unveil.The thought came instantly after reading X entry.
I liked it and wanted to share it.
You didn't like it?
Arnon
I have the distinct feeling you already wrote about X once and that you then did use her real name, but I can't remember if it was in one of your entries here or in a column in Humo.Odd Nerdrum made some pretty "odd" paintings. I wouldn't be surprised if this woman was intended not to have nipples.
@Dens, how many nipples have you seen in your life. Not all of them are pointy and pronounced. In fact, especially at the age of the girl on this painting (my guess is approx 16), you'll tend to see that hormones may flatten and soften them so they become more like soft discs than the pointy ideals people have of them. Most likely it was warm in his studio. And she was not aroused. What you see here Dens are perfectly normal nipples in their natural state.
Yes, perhaps you're right, Noa. But the problem is that I really don't see any disc-shaped softness as well. One might interpret contrast and lightness in a certain way, but it's too vague for me.
(And I've once knew a girl who couln't make her nipples hard, not even when aroused. I found that very strange.)
(And I've once knew a girl who couln't make her nipples hard, not even when aroused. I found that very strange.)
Bernard
What special forces was your father trained by? Or is this too intimate?Dens,
My eyesight is not too good, my computer is not too good and the last pair of female nipples I've seen from this close were probably my mother's, but even I recognize them, so you can safely believe Noa: they really are there.
My eyesight is not too good, my computer is not too good and the last pair of female nipples I've seen from this close were probably my mother's, but even I recognize them, so you can safely believe Noa: they really are there.
Annojo
I assume your X is not my X, but nevertheless give her my regards. As you might have noticed in this entry X didn't get pregnant recently. Of course i have no other proof of this pregnancy than an e-mail she sent me.Mieke
Very well possible.@Mieke
A branch of the commando’s, specialized to interrogate and break the will of the prisoner (mostly by psychological manipulations and prolonged beating techniques, without leaving traces, to disorientate and exhaust the subject until one starts hallucinating).
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Special_forces
By the way, I see nipples too! Now that made my day.
A branch of the commando’s, specialized to interrogate and break the will of the prisoner (mostly by psychological manipulations and prolonged beating techniques, without leaving traces, to disorientate and exhaust the subject until one starts hallucinating).
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Special_forces
By the way, I see nipples too! Now that made my day.
And an extra note for Dens - she's a redhead, which means her pigmentation is different. Now I'd almost feel like going to bed with that woman, thank you very much.
I still don't see any nipples. I start feeling a bit sad.
I'm a redhead, as we all know, and I can see my nipples quite clearly.
I'm a redhead, as we all know, and I can see my nipples quite clearly.
Bernard
Wich army is what I actually wanted to know. Or do you think that is irrelevant?Dennis
They look more like shades then real nipples.@Mieke
Aha. A branch of the glorious Belgian Army, of course (he almost went into the Foreign Legion).
Aha. A branch of the glorious Belgian Army, of course (he almost went into the Foreign Legion).
Bernard
For a moment I feared that it was the army my father was in.Dear Dens,
I didn't dare bothering you during your nipple-quest, or are you still busy with it?If not, then I'm still curious if you liked my thought on X father.
Eric
@Mieke
I know. As a boy (like so many) he had a great admiration for the German soldier. Of course he feels superior to the SS.
I know. As a boy (like so many) he had a great admiration for the German soldier. Of course he feels superior to the SS.
Eric
Do you mean that he could be proud? I don't think a father is ever proud of someone who's nailing his daughter. I know I wouldn't. I would despise the guy until i'm dead.Arnon
Okay, I'll give the X that I know your regards!Crush
I was there at the Verwey lecture, was crushed by your voice in the church, had to read it all over in the NRC to get your point...[ Add comment ]
