Arnon Grunberg

Last hours

Dishonest dynamics

These are my last hours in Europe. The godson and his mother left for the Netherlands, I’m at Dusseldorf International Airport, watching a German man with a beard indulging in red wine.
I’m reading Freud these days -- this article in yesterday’s New York Times is worth reading for anybody interested in the ethics of family life:

‘“I think people no longer have a unitary idea that divorce inevitably disqualifies you, but they still look at the dynamics,” said Stephanie Coontz, of the Council on Contemporary Families, a nonprofit research group. “They are more disapproving of dishonest dynamics, by how someone handled his marriages, divorces, kids.”’

Freud’s discoveries have been ignored or are deliberately misunderstood.