Arnon Grunberg

Trading up

Trading down

Kate Taylor on the hookup culture and women in the Times:

‘As A. explained her schedule, “If I’m sober, I’m working.” In such an overburdened college life, she said, it was rare for her and her friends to find a relationship worth investing time in, and many people avoided commitment because they assumed that someone better would always come along.
“We are very aware of cost-benefit issues and trading up and trading down, so no one wants to be too tied to someone that, you know, may not be the person they want to be with in a couple of months,” she said.
Instead, she enjoyed casual sex on her terms — often late at night, after a few drinks, and never at her place, she noted, because then she would have to wash the sheets.’

(Read the complete article here.)

Women appreciate the hookup culture as well, at least some women. But emotional investment is time consuming and changing the sheets may be even more time consuming. We fully understand.

“I really like you, I would like to have sex with you, but I don’t want to wash the sheets for you.”

Call me a man without self-respect, but in certain cases I would accept this offer.

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