Mark Landler in Saturday’s Times on Merkel, NSA and Obama:

‘When Ms. Merkel was asked if she was satisfied with how the White House had responded, Mr. Obama jumped in to answer first, saying he knew how emotional the issue was in Germany.
“Angela Merkel is one of my closest friends on the world stage, somebody whose partnership I deeply value,” the president said. “It has pained me to see the degree to which the Snowden disclosures have created strains in the relationship.”’

(Read the article here)

Aha, it’s the disclosures that create strains in the relationship, it’s not the adultery, the betrayal of trust, the immoral behavior; it’s the disclosure of the immoral behavior that causes havoc.
I guess this is another definition of utilitarianism.